The Good News
December 20, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 8 comments
I had my second post-radiation MRI on Friday and went to Duke to get the results yesterday. The results show that there has been no change in the tumor. At first blush, it
seems that this isn’t very good news. Maybe, some would think, that God didn’t answer our prayers. We expected to hear that the miraculous had happened; that the tumor had
disappeared and the doctors had no explanation.
But it is good news. The doctors expected that the tumor would grow after radiation and the swelling would worsen. That has not happened and there is encouragement to be
found here. I was told that it takes time for a tumor to begin to die after radiation. It could take up to a year or even more. And then, even when it does die, it leaves
scar tissue. There will always be possibility of this tumor someday beginning to grow. The neuro-oncologist’s advice was to stay as healthy as possible as the best way to
fight the chance of the bad cells surviving. He would not guess at my life expectancy but he mentioned people living one year up to 20 years with this sort of illness.
Before I was born God knew the number of my days.
But there is better news, too. God is still in control. He is in control of my life, the life of my family and our circumstances. There is so much hope in those words. God
is not ignoring our prayers, our requests, our desires. He can see the forest for the trees so He knows more about timing than I do. He does what He does because He loves
me and my family. If this tumor means that His will be done, I say, “yeah and amen”. If just one person decides to put their faith in God because of what I have gone
through, it is more than worth it to me.
I have learned that God doesn’t always answer our prayers the way we expect Him to do it. Sometimes His answer is, “Wait” or even, “No”. But He is a loving parent. He sees
what I cannot and then He acts out of love for me.
I had been expecting one of two outcomes: complete healing or dying. I knew there were other options, but I focused on one of those two outcomes. I am learning to accept
another outcome: living with a brain tumor and some physical limitations. I am not saying God won’t remove the tumor miraculously at some point. I don’t rule out anything
God may do. He is, after all, God. But, I believe God plans for me to reach out to others going through tough times with the hope He has given me. He has a plan, a perfect
one and I want to be a part of it.
I will be getting MRI’s every two months for the forseeable future. Please pray that I would be able to see God’s plan clearly and have the grace to walk in that plan.
Write again soon.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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Paula on March 15, 2006 at 6:07 pm
You are in my prayers! Sometimes it is when God brings difficulty upon us, and we handle it with His peace as we live in His grace, that we best communicate what our
faith means.
You are such an inspiration! Your posts exude confidence in our Savior!
May His peace be ever with you!
Paula
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Patty Hosmer on March 7, 2006 at 9:51 pm
Just checking in to see how everything is…Your faith inspires me
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Robin on March 1, 2006 at 4:54 pm
I just stopped by to see how you are doing. I wonder how you are these days. Praying that all is well.
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quietcajun on February 2, 2006 at 11:37 pm
Your attitude is an inspiration to me… I am going through some minor health problems and feel discouraged. Your post was a blessing to me.
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Kay in PA on January 4, 2006 at 2:52 pm
Praying for a miracle!
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HomeschoolFREAKS on January 4, 2006 at 1:10 pm
I am blessed by your love and trust in God. God be praised! I am praying for you. God bless, Rhonda.
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Robin on December 22, 2005 at 6:37 am
This is very good news! I will continue to pray for you and your family. I have many others praying too. Please keep us posted as to how you are doing. Keep the faith!
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Col323 on December 20, 2005 at 3:49 pm
Your trust and joy in the midst of your
situation is amazing and God given.
Your outlook is Christlike and
a good reminder to us all.
God is in control, we are NOT!
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November Update
November 28, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 5 comments
Happy Thanksgiving to all. Again, it’s been a month since I’ve sent an update. I am a bad blogger! LOL
An update:
I have been extraordinarily tired for almost three weeks now. After about two hours of sitting up and trying to do something, anything, I run (as well as I can) back to
bed, hardly able to hold my eyelids in the open position. I am also experiencing the type of headaches I was having when I was diagnosed, but they are centered behind my
left ear. It goes away when I lay down or if I take some Tylenol. So, is this good or bad news? I don’t know. I have another MRI scheduled for December 16th. I hope to get
a better picture then.
It’s been four months since this challenge began. It feels like a long time to me but, when put in perspective, it isn’t all that long when you look at it with eternity in view.
Dh and I are at a crossorads as we look to the future. I need Dh home with me just about all the time to help look after our children. And since my prognosis is nothing if not unpredictable, we need flexibility in his job. I feel God’s hand in this situation and I know that He will lead us to the right place. I would like to know right now what is coming down the pike but I have to keep reminding myself that He will open the door for us. I am praying that God will give us the grace to walk through that open door at the right time.
We are homeschooling in fits and starts. I have been sleeping much of my days these past three weeks. My two older children have taken to bringing their books to the bedroom and doing their learning on my bed. I feel as if we aren’t doing enough and, like many moms, I fret about their success in the future.
I feel my biggest battle right now is psychological. I am tired of dealing with this tumor problem. It shackles my energy and keeps me tied to my house and even my bedroom.
I am one who loves surprises but I can’t wait to find out what they are. I would love to know where this is going so I can plan my part. But God doesn’t reveal anything until we are ready to accept it, and when it is time. It just isn’t time. So, I’ll continue to fight against my frustration and look for ways to be about my Father’s business in my home.
I am not feeling profound so I will sign off here. I am planning another update after my next MRI reading on December 19th.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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Anonymous on December 15, 2005 at 11:22 am
Elyse, don’t ever forget that GOD IS IN CONTROL. Kevin lived by that statement. You are in His hands. He will carry you through this most difficult time of being tired and worn down. You obviously have a loving, praying family that will carry you through when you cannot seem to carry yourself. Hang in there for the Master’s plan, friend!
You are continually in my prayers! You have the BEST doctors guided by the Lord!!!!! Love you, friend! Stacey
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Robin on December 7, 2005 at 7:33 am
Elyse,
I have been wondering how you are doing. Many prayers are with you. Maybe your body needs some rest after all it’s been through. I’m sure you’d rather be up and around.
It’s amazing that you are still trying to school and from your bed at that! God Bless.
Robin in NJ
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HolyExperience on December 5, 2005 at 7:53 pm
I will pray for a special touch of His grace and love and strength for the 16th. Wish I knew you and could bring a meal over, read to the kids, give you and your
husband time alone while the children and I played……but I don’t. So I will pray instead.
All *IS* well,
Ann V. HolyExperience
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bwktbarr on December 2, 2005 at 11:25 am
I was looking at it the other day and wondering what was going on with you. We don’t know each other, but I have read your entries since the first, and pray for you
regularly.
God bless you and I can’t wait to hear what the doctor says–
In Love,
Katie Barr
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wendy on November 29, 2005 at 5:04 pm
hi elyse,
i read your blog and wanted to reply before next week as we go away for a month to visit with my mom and won’t be back until january 3rd.
my heart ached when i read your passage. to be strong all of the time is just not possible, but to be faith-full is, and you have faith to spare 🙂
your honesty is wonderful and refreshing in a cynical and often fake world, but i know you must be scared by what is happening; why the headaches and the tirednes
again.
one thing that helps me sometimes is to write a list of truths……..i know you are tired, so if you don’t mind i will write one for you (the best i can)
– the truth is that you are near your family and they will always help you when you need it as best they can. pride may have to take a back seat at the moment as you
accept every ounce of help that you are offered.
– the truth is that this is a tremendous test of your marriage and to expect it to go smoothly is not realistic.
– the truth is you have always embraced your children with honesty, imagination and creativity and strength – by including them in this journey you are helping each
other to cope. a child is a powerful medicine.
– the truth is your children and husband are probably scared to death of what is happening to you.
– the truth is you are doing everything you can for you and your family at the moment. to continue trying to maintain a household and homeschool your children thoughout
this is more than admirable!!
– the truth is you have been through a lot; maybe your body needs to heal, and sleep is the best way it knows.
– the truth is its ok to be scared.
– the truth is your last test came back with good results. it is possible that the tumor is shrinking but may take a while to show up.
– the truth is you are so loved. you are in our hearts (and god’s heart) constantly – every minute of every day.
i will be thinking of you on december 16th.
with love
wendy
Here’s the happy and funny stuff
October 18, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 4 comments
I experienced a few things this weekend on the way to Duke:
My husband and I asked the elders of our church to anoint me with oil and pray for me as we are instructed in James 4. After church on Sunday, the elders gathered and, with
my family in attendance, they each prayed for me. That was a wonderful experience. (just a side note: God sovereignly led us to this church and I can hardly stop thanking
Him for it)
Then my Nana came over in the afternoon and said they were having a healing service at her church that night and she wanted me to come. Of Course! But here is the really
cool part. My other grandma came down from New Jersey with my Dad to come with me to hear my results. So, both my grandmas were with me at the healing service. They were
both praying for me. What an honor! My grandmas are godly women and have been for a very long time. They have been praying for me daily since they found out my mom was
pregnant. Talk about a spiritual heritage! Now you can see where my faith has developed. I have a long family history on which to look back and draw from. God has never
once failed my family and He has blessed all of us so much.
Anyway, I was so excited to have them both lay their hands on me and pray pray pray. The pastor also anointed me with oil and prayed. It was a great time with the Lord. I
was anointed and prayed for both morning and evening so I consider it a double blessing, a double portion of God’s grace.
The other cool, sort of Twilight Zone thing that happened was that my mom, dad and sister spent the day together at the hospital. Not so uncommon, you say? Well, my parents
separated when I was 14 and divorced soon after and both are happily remarried.
But God has a sense of humor. The four of us, my grandma and my husband, sat in the waiting room and then in the little examining room for three hours. We laughed and
talked and, if you can believe it, had a really nice time. I wouldn’t want to meet like that every week, but I know God had a reason for doing that and I am thankful He did.
So, even in the midst of problems, God is up to something good. I don’t know why He is leading me through this and I may never know until I ask Him face to face. I guess if
He wantd me to know He’d tell me. But, I pray that He will continue to hold my hand while I’m walking.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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Dawn ; ) on November 24, 2005 at 1:08 am
Have a blessed day and week!
Dawn ; )
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MySmokyMtnHomeschool on November 20, 2005 at 11:14 pm
and came to your site. I noticed you haven’t posted in a while. How are you doing? I hope all is well. This is a great place to come for encouragment. I hope you will
join us again soon.
Blessings,
Amy Beth <><
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wendy on October 30, 2005 at 2:58 pm
so glad to hear that your doctors appointment was positive, and that everything is so hopeful for you and your family.
you are loved and missed.
wendy
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Teresa on October 18, 2005 at 6:01 am
God bless you Elyse. I miss you and pray for you daily.
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The Good News!
October 18, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 3 comments
Hi!
You heard it here first!
My husband, father, mother, sister and grandmother all traveled to Duke yesterday to hear the results of my MRI. I’ll get to that part later, about the experience of
spending the day with my family….
But on to the exciting stuff.
There was no obvious growth of the tumor, which, I guess, was a concern of the doctor’s from the beginning. So, if you define miracles as when something bad doesn’t happen
though it was expected, chalk up one miracle. (I am counting it as a miracle myself).
The swelling has decreased markedly around my stem even though my steroid dosage has decreased. If the tumor was thriving, the swelling would not decrease and I would have to stay on a high steroid dosage. But I have decreased my dosage by more than half and the swelling is minor right now. Another MIRACLE.
The tumor is still there and has not decreased in size,as far as the doctor’s can tell. It is possible (probable I think) that it is shrinking and will just take some time to show up on the scan.
I am going to consider this a MIRACLE on the way. I believe God has already healed me. Sometimes His answer is wait because He has a better plan in mind. There are still
lessons for me to learn through all of this. One thing I have learned is that if I rush ahead of where God is, I will miss what He has for me. And I may miss what He has
for me to give to those around me.
So, while I am sick to death of being impeded; not being able to drive, not being able to hear properly, having weakness when I walk, I am praying that I won’t run ahead of
where God is waiting to teach me something.
I am not too good at this. I like to plan ahead, be prepared for any situation. I get too caught up in my lists and I forget to look around me and learn from the present. I
guess God is giving me another chance to learn this lesson.
I will have a follow up MRI in two months to see what progress has been made. I’ll have an MRI every two months for a year to see what is happening. If my symptoms return
or if the MRI shows the tumor is growing, chemotherapy is the next option. I believe that won’t be necessary. I will also, God willing, be weaned off the steroids in a
month!
So there is a lot to celebrate!!!!!
My faith has been bolstered by all the prayers that have been prayed on my behalf. It’s like there was a huge snowstorn, 20 inches fell in a day. I needed to walk through that snow to get to my house. So, hundreds of people came out with shovels and cleared a path for me. Some people I knew, some I didn’t, but everyone was united in a common goal, to shovel a path just for me so I could get home. I didn’t have to do anything except walk. And the path was completely clear as I walked home. I saw the snow piled high on each side of me. Sometimes it was so high I was afraid it would cave in on me, but there was always someone standing between me and the snow wall, protecting me from everything. It seems my part was the easiest. I just had to walk. God sent the shovelers and then He took my hand and led me through the valley.
I know this is not over yet, but God has been so good to me that I can’t help but know that His favor won’t stop now.
I’ll post my other mumblings about events that surrounded my doctor’s visit in another blog.
Tearfully joyous,
Elyse
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Anonymous on October 19, 2005 at 11:36 pm
a friend of mine, Judy G. has been keeping us up to date with your health concerns. From what she’s told us you have a wonderful gift of faith. It seems from your
postings that you know exactly who to call on for help. I’m so glad to hear that you are still keeping God in your sight even through all of this. It must be hard on your
family as well as you and I know that keeping faith will get you all thru this. My family deals with a daily medical problem with our 9 yr old daughter and I know that my
faith has grown tremendously because of her illness. God is good all the time and will help you thru. May God bless you and your family.
Lisa G.
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Anonymous on October 18, 2005 at 7:08 am
Elyse,
You’ve got me in tears! I’ve been praying for you and I love your analogy of us shoveling a path for you. What a beautiful thing that your family was all there with you
to lift you up to the throne. May God continue to bless you in this walk you are on. Continue prayers for the miracle to continue…for the swelling to disappear completely…
for the tumor to continue to shrink…for strength for you and your husband and children.
Robin
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Col323 on October 18, 2005 at 5:41 am
I just came across your blog and have
been blessed by your words. Thank you
for writing from the heart. I’ll be reading along
as you write about what God is leading you through.
Hope you have a peaceFULL and joyous day as you
rest in the Lord.
Michelle
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Why I’m Glad God Doesn’t Parent Like Me
October 6, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 2 comments
I wrote this during a morning devotion and thought it would be good place to write it out.
Why I’m Glad God Doesn’t Parent Like Me
He didn’t make mistakes with His firstborn and then over-correct with all the other one that come behind.
He doesn’t play favorites, ever.
He knows when to step in, when to let them fall but He’s always there to dust them off.
He doesn’t hover, trying to keep them from making mistakes.
He never says he has to finish cleaning the bathroom before He can sit and cuddle up with a favorite book.
He never yells, though He does get angry. But His anger instructs, never tears down or makes it a fearful thing to get close to Him.
He expects a lot but He never nags. He always leads by example.
And I made all those mistakes before lunch on Monday.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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anita on October 16, 2005 at 11:09 pm
Together we prayed for you and your family tonight my sister and friend. We love you all very much and look forward to hearing about your miracle tomorrow. We miss you
a lot—-fall doesn’t seem much like fall without you. The Harvest Fest fries and aprons just won’t be the same and the fires in our back yard lack joyfull and highly skilled
dancers to prance around them. Please give the kids a hug and kiss for us and know that you are in our prayers.
Love,
Anita and Kenny
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mischanne on October 13, 2005 at 10:40 pm
Praising Him for His grace and persistent patience with us as we mother our children. Blessings on your journey.
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Getting Closer
October 6, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 5 comments
Hi again!
The countdown to the MRI miracle continues! I will be going to Duke on Tuesday, October 11th for an MRI. Then, on October 17th I will meet with Dr. Friedman, again at Duke
and he willl tell me the results and the next step.
We’re praying for a miracle. There have already been so many miracles and I have learned so much in these past three months that I almost think that healing will be
anticlimatic! Just kidding. God doesn’t do anything halfway or without perfection, so however He chooses to move in my life, I pray for the grace to accept it and go
forward making a difference for Him and His kingdom.
God has been busy answering our prayers, some sovereignly, some through other people. My NJ scrapbooking friends held two raffles and another dear homeschooling friend is
holding a yard sale for us and our NJ home church and NC home church (both named Grace) have blessed us. And my family, is right around the corner always ready to help out.
It is a humbling feeling to be on the receiving end of so many blessings. I almost want to say, “Gotcha! I was just kidding, I’m okay.” It’s a very odd feeling.
My faith is still strong, mostly because of all the prayers being prayed by friends, family, people I don’t know but hear my story. I know it must sound pitiful, “Thirty-
seven year old woman with five young children has an inoperable brain tumor. She’s been told she has a year to eight years to live.”
But I have a different story.
”Thirty -seven year old, vibrant, joyful woman with a devoted husband and five awesome gifts from the throne room of Heaven, has been given a chance to live her faith
before many people. She lived a pretty average, hum drum life before discovering a brain tumor. And, now, with no hope, but God, she is learning how to really live for Him.
She knows, no matter what, she is going to live forever.
So, God has been meeting our needs for everything from childcare to meals (a very important thing if you know me) to postage stamps coming in the mail when I had just run
out. I cry every time the mail comes because I receive so many beautiful cards with so many beautiful words. Who has time to dwell on the negative. My glass is not only
totally full, it’s full of sweet nectar.
But I don’t want anyone to think it’s okay to stop praying! Please pray for wisdom for my doctors, wisdom for my family, for peace for my children (especially Conlan and
Hannah) and that I could be a witness to everyone with whom I speak.
I love everybody!
Joyfully,
Elyse
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MommaMouse on October 13, 2005 at 11:42 pm
I am praying for you and your family. You are very brave and strong.
God is always with us.
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Anonymous on October 8, 2005 at 11:43 pm
elyse,
thank you for inspiring us all……..
i can’t believe you have had two little ones since i last saw you.
your children are luckier than you could ever imagine – you have always been an amazing and loving mother. i know this won’t stop you.
it must be so hard and scary for them, especially the older ones, to see you go through this.
give them extra hugs from me.
i will be thinking of you on the 11th and the 17th.
with love
wendy
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Mark on October 7, 2005 at 1:27 pm
Thanks for the update, Elyse. You truly are an inspiration for us all.
The prayers will certainly still keep coming for you, Craig and the children.
–Mark
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Anonymous on October 7, 2005 at 7:04 am
I just thought I’d check to see if you had posted. Thanks for the update. I was wondering when the MRI was. Praying right along with you for that Miracle. I have people
at First Baptist in Rockaway, NJ praying for you and your family. Even in the midst of what you are going through, you are being used by the Lord to inspire people. God
Bless.
Robin
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writerip on October 6, 2005 at 7:49 pm
I will pray for your health and for the wonderful ministry you are accomplishing in your time of stress and illness. What an astonishing example you set for the rest of
us! God bless you and yours.
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Almost Done and a Psalm
September 11, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 7 comments
September 11th
I just noticed the date and realized I should take a moment and remember how it felt that day four years ago. Scared, uncomprehending the hatred shown to us, then peaceful,
remembering that there is a plan and the Great Planner. And we read in the back of the Book who triumphs.
I salute and honor the many brave, selfless, incredibly hardworking servicemen and women who are doing something incedible to protect our freedom where it has been
attacked. I pray that God will bless you with safety and may you come home soon, victorious. And I pray for wisdom for our leader, President Bush. Continue, Lord, to guide
and counsel him in the decisions he must make.
I have only four more treatment left! The past two weeks have been the hardest yet but even then, it hasn’t been as bad as it could have been. I look like a chipmunk
because my face is swollen, my ears ring, I wake up with a headache, my legs are weak and I have a hair trigger temper (it’s the steroids, really). Does it sound like I am
complaining? I’m not, it’s more like cataloging. Because…
I CAN think, see, hear, touch, smell, taste, laugh, walk, feed myself, read, teach my children, kiss my husband, breathe fresh air, sleep in my own bed, hug, speak, plan
for the future, brush my own hair, hold my baby and so many other things. The things that bother me, bother me, but the things I can do, exhilerate me.
My verse of the day is Psalm 27:13-14. The whole Psalm is worth memorizing but this one verse is especially poignant for me.
“I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take
courage. Yes, wait for the Lord.”
I believe I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. In fact, I am seeing it every day. People praying for me. Uplifing me with encouraging words,
cards, gifts. So many people I can touch. So, I am waiting and while I wait, I am praying that God would show me His goodness that is already here. Please join me in
praying that the other part of this Psalm would take residence in my heart, that of learning His way more intimately.
Please continue to pray for my dear husband. He gets the brunt of my bad moods and his plate is full of child loving.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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JenIG on September 28, 2005 at 8:28 am
what a beautiful post. i just found you thru the Random Blog button. I am so sorry to hear of the trials you are facing. Your sweet post was a real encouragement to me
today.
love jen
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Lil on September 22, 2005 at 8:14 pm
You are truly an inspiration. ” A strong will, faith in God and a courageous spirit will help to speed recovery.” Good for you for all the blessed things you CAN do! I
am praying for you each day.
Lillian
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Anonymous on September 22, 2005 at 3:28 pm
Just wanted to drop you a comment to let you know that we’re thinking of you (NJScrappers)! Hope the treatments are going well…sounds like it. BIG HUGS to your kids and
esp. to DH (hang in there…love & faith will prevail!). Miss you, Elyse!!!! Sending good vibes your way from Chicago!! MargieH
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Anonymous on September 19, 2005 at 3:46 pm
Elyse … you continue to inspire! You are a true blessing and we’re keeping you and your family in prayer.
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bwktbarr on September 16, 2005 at 11:20 pm
I know you don’t know me, but I came across the first post you made on your blog and I was hooked. I think of you often and pray. God bless you and your family. Thank
you for continuing to tell of the mercies of God in your life.
Psalm 121 is a favorite of mine. “I will look unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord which made heaven and earth. He will not suffer
my foot to be moved:
“He that keepeth thee will not slumber. Behold, He that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep…”
My prayer for you tonight is thanksgiving that our God never sleeps, and a confident hope for His comfort and strength to you and your family.
In Love,
Katie Barr
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Robin on September 12, 2005 at 3:44 pm
Thank you for taking the time to update us! I am so thankful for all the things that you CAN do. THIS is an answer to prayer! Keep us posted~~looking forward to more
good news. Tell your dear husband that this too shall pass and it’s only for a season. I used to have to remind myself of that when I had a cranky baby! AND~~what a
wonderful man he is to take care of you and the children.
Keep the faith,
Robin
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wendy on September 11, 2005 at 6:30 pm
hi elyse.
i am sorry for the delay in replying. life has been a rollercoaster but i know i have no right to complain……..
i am glad you are almost finished the treatments and hope that the MRI gives a positive result after all of this strength that you and your family have shown.
your strength is amazing although i know the quite moments are the hardest, and as you said, the little things seem worse than the big things sometimes…….
so glad you are moved into your new home and near family that you can count on.
that makes all the difference.
will write more later
much love and a hug
wendy
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Keeping the Faith
August 31, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 3 comments
Hi,
It’s been too long since I updated my blog and much has happened.
My mother, step father, aunts and uncles worked, selflessly, long and hard for two weeks and moved us into a wonderful home in Fayetteville, NC on Saturday. We were so
blessed to move into a furnished home in the same neighborhood as my family.
My treatments are continuing without interruption which is another praise. I am fighting a little bit of bronchitis with antibiotic and we think it was caught in time and
won’t become a problem. Another praise. My radiologist, while not hopeful about the diagnosis is encouraged that I am tolerating radiation and the steroids so well. My side
effects are not enough to warrant concern which could mean the tumor has not grown (something that could happen because of the radiation). Another praise!
I have only two more weeks of radiation left. The time is going by quickly, which I attribute to the mercy of the Lord. After that I will be waiting four weeks and then I
will have another MRI. Based on those results, the next step will be determined. I am expecting a miracle.
I continue to see God’s hand on my life in many little ways. I see a little hummingbird outside the window and it makes me think how creative God is to have thought of such
a precious little bird. When I am getting radiation, I can feel the presence of God come into the room and I relax and enjoy the moment.
I hope I am not painting a picture of the idyllic bliss of having a serious disease. I snap at my dear husband and children more than once a day, at least. I cry a couple
of times a day about inconsequential things like not having my shampoo in my shower, or when I overcooked my pancake. Small things seem big while I am trying to ignore the
big things that are big.
I am not able to finish school every day and that distresses me. But then I look at the bigger picture. We’re together. And we have the Lord.
Joyfully,
Elyse
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Anonymous on September 1, 2005 at 11:35 pm
Elyse … it was such a blessing to read your update. You are a true testimony to the great healing balm that one can only experience when in a daily relationship with
their Lord. We continue to lift you up in our home and at church.
jill
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Ari Wertheimer on September 1, 2005 at 4:08 pm
Elyse,
Hopefully you remember me from our days at UNH and also being in the same fraternity as your husband. Cathy Demers told me about your health about two months ago and I
have been burdened ever since to pray for you individually and in my home-group or larger church settings. I have also been meaning to write you with some words of
encouragement, but I could not put it off any longer after hearing what I heard today. You may have heard of “healing rooms” before, but I am learning about them for the
first time today. It has always been on my heart to pray for people to be healed (Mark 16:18) so when I cam across a ?healing room? workshop hosted by a Vineyard Church in
the Boston area my interest was aroused. Part of their promotional material is a CD with 15-20+ testimonies of people being healed and I could not help but think of and
have faith for you. I immediately got on the web to learn more about these healing rooms and they are literally all over the country. If there is a Vineyard church nearby
you might want to inquire if they have one, but here is also a link to an association of healing rooms with a few listed in North Carolina:
http://www.healingrooms.com/iahr/iahr_rooms.htm
If you would like more info, or if I could send you a copy of the CD please email or call me: ariwerth@yahoo.com, (617) 782-6835
God bless & heal you!
Ari
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Robin on September 1, 2005 at 11:55 am
So glad to see the update. I’ve been thinking about you and wondered how it’s going. Don’t worry about not finishing school each day. In the grand scheme of things, it
won’t matter. You are doing what you can and the Lord knows that. Praying right along with you for that miracle!
Robin
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God is Near
August 13, 2005 in Uncategorized by Elfmom | 7 comments
Well, I’ve completed two weeks of radiation already. We are slowly settling into a routine of school in the morning, radiation at noon and a some more school in the
afternoon, though more relaxed because I am tired in the afternoons. I have had so much support from family and friends. I am sure this would not be going as smoothly if
not for all the help that has come our way.
The radiation doesn’t hurt and my side effects have been mild thus far. I am very tired, have frequent headaches, walk unbalanced and a little dizzy, dry mouth, insomnia
and very sensitive to hot and cold. But, all of those things are just a nuisance to deal with. I can walk under my own power, I can swallow, I can breathe on my own and I
have maintained my sight. All of these things remind me how my Heavenly Father is blessing me. I have so many reasons but to praise Him all the more because of His kind and tender mercy.
I mentioned to my pastor that it is almost a guilty pleasure to be feel so close to God. I feel like I have been chosen for this special thing and I don’t know why but I am
reveling in His grace. It’s like the feeling of joy when you first walk into the room with the Christmas tree on Christmas morning. The lights are twinkling, and
expectation courses through the air. For a moment you hold your breath and try and take in the scene, to savor it. I feel like I am standing in that doorway all day long
and I never tire of that joyful feeling.
Of course this is more than a feeling. It is a deep knowing, an abiding. I am aware of the possibilities. If the tumor grows, it could inhibit my breathing, walking or
sight. If the swelling grows, who knows. The life expectancy with my diagnosis is 5-8 years. I understand the possibilities and I choose to cling to something else. I cling
to the promise that God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly more than I can ask of think. Before I even knew how to pray, He was sending an answer. His answer may not be
the tumor is gone, or it may be, but His answer is perfect and will come just in time. His plans for me are to give me a future and a hope and He works ALL things, even
tumors, together for good to Him who love God and are called according to His purpose.
I have known these verses all my life but they are real to me now. They are true. They are words, yes but they hold life in them, and hope.
We started school this Momday and, again, it is an answer to prayer. I was concerned that I wouldn’t be able to do school. I have always believed that God called our family
to homeschool. Just a few months ago I was asking God if maybe I missed something and didn’t really hear his voice when we decided to start our homeschool journey. But,
wouldn’t you just know it, God has sent confirmation that we are supposed to be homeschooling.
The beginning of this year went more smoothly than any year before and my children are, slowly, adapting to our routine and even enjoying the discipline of school more than
they have in the past. God is truly good to me. Most of all, I have
been able to lay down some of that perfectionism that I infiused into our school life, making things more difficult than they need to be. I am experiencing more joy in the
school day now. Thanks go to God alone.
I have to say that the prayers of the righeous have been availing much. I can feel the support of so many voices lifted to the heavens on my behalf. It is a humbling and
heady feeling to be remembered by so many. I am constantly reminded how powerful prayer is and how the body of Christ is being united through this. Only a great God would
give us a way to unite, act, think and prepare through the powerful discipline of prayer.
God is providing for us materially, spiritually and emotionally through His people. I know the road ahead may be bumpy and long, but if the past is any indication of the
present, I know the future will be full of miracles and blessings.
Joyfully,
Elyse
7 comments
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Jean on August 27, 2005 at 11:48 am
Elyse, Your faith and strength are overwhelming to me. I will pray continually for your health to improve and for the tumor to disappear. As we know, with God, all
things are possible. I will also pray for your family. They say that something like this is harder for the family, than for the patient. I don’t know if that’s true or not,
because I’m sure that what you are going through is pretty tough. But, your family needs our prayers, too.
Good luck and God be with you!
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Janet on August 24, 2005 at 10:26 pm
Thank you for this update. You have uplifted my heart and helped to strengthen my faith in Him. I will continue to pray for you.
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Gena Suarez, The Old Schoolhouse Magazin on August 22, 2005 at 4:38 pm
I am so glad you are here at HSB, sharing with all of us. I am so very sorry about the things you are going thru…how difficult! God is with you throughout it all…please
know this. I pray that others in this community will lift you up in prayer.
Love,
In Christ,
Gena Suarez, Publisher
The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, LLC
http://www.TheHomeschoolMagazine.com
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Donna C on August 16, 2005 at 11:37 pm
Elyse, you wrote:
Before I even knew how to pray, He was sending an answer. His answer may not be the tumor is gone, or it may be, but His answer is perfect and will come just in time.
His plans for me are to give me a future and a hope and He works ALL things, even tumors, together for good to Him who love God and are called according to His purpose.
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Oh, how true…
I heard of your story thru Donna-Jean’s blog (and thru an email list, D-J is also on). All I can say is Amen and Amen and AMEN!
I know that I know that you are exactly where you need to be. In Him. Resting in and following Him where ever He leads. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away —
BLESSED be the Name of the Lord — because He is and He is VERY good, ALL the time… as with the three in the furnace, it matters not what His answer is, but what OUR answer
is…
Praying with so many others on your and your family’s behalf… Praising Him for your heart that is so strong after Him….. {{hugs & prayers}}
In Him,
Donna C
Wife to Glenn (23 years)
Mom to Mike (15 yrs) & to Richard (2 yrs w/us & eternity with Jesus)
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Anonymous on August 16, 2005 at 2:51 pm
Elyse,
I read about your situation on Donna-Jean’s blog and wanted to post a note. I am blown away by your heart and spirit that you’ve expressed in your writing…
and you will be in my prayers and linked on my blog. God’s richest blessings for answered prayers on you and your family.
Most Sincerely,
Javamom
a fellow Ambleside Online hs family
http://booknscoffee.blogspot.com
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Anonymous on August 16, 2005 at 2:38 pm
Elyse, Many thoughts and prayers are coming your way from northern New Jersey. I was so sorry to read on Donna Jean’s blog about your brain tumor. I had been thinking
about you a couple weeks ago and wondered if you were still scrapbooking. I didn’t know that you had moved out of the area. Keep the faith Elyse. Robin Bleezarde
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Anonymous on August 16, 2005 at 9:38 am
Elyse, I have read your blog about what’s happening in your life – and I want you to know I am praying for you. Your Christ-focused thoughts remind me of the Scriptures
‘we have the mind of Christ’ – and I pray that God will continue to give you His grace, and use you to embolden others to trust Him for their lives as well.
As I look at my youngest daughter, I’ll think of yours – her name-twin, and remember the kindness of your son to mine, too. My kids loved your gang, and were sad when
you moved. They’ll be praying for your family, too, now! I have linked your blog to mine.
Love in Him,
Donna-Jean
http://www.libertyandlily.blogspot.com